Channeling Emily Post.

But I don’t think she would have any idea.

Apparently there is a “new” feature on Match.com that allows you to say “No, thanks” when someone winks at you or sends you an email. I say it is new because my friends who are Match veterans (and married!) say that this keen little option did not exist when they were looking for love in cyberspace. (Wait! Are we looking for love? Wow, that's a lot of pressure.)

Anyway, I digress. I always have a dilemma when I receive an email that says “so and so has winked at you” or “so and so has sent you an email.” What if so and so doesn’t interest me in the least? (Before you judge or call me hypercritical, take a moment to liken internet dating to shopping. Work with me. You spy something that catches your eye, you take a closer look, you buy or move on. Brilliant.) Do I just ignore the wink/email? Or do I say “No, thanks” and move on to the next?

Though seemingly callous, I often choose the ignore option, as it seems to me to be the lesser of the evils. Saying “No, thanks” is outright rejection. Who am I to reject someone I don’t even know, sight unseen? I think it’s kinder and gentler to just ignore…after a while, he will hopefully forget that he sent me a wink or an email (or, on rare occasions, both) and, thus, forget about me.

And, duh, I’m the Queen of Passive Aggressivia.