Oh, Stupid Cupid.
So, things with RCB are still progressing. But so, unfortunately, is time. Which means that the up until this year dreaded February 14 is right around the corner.
Who am I kidding? I am dreading it this year with more angst than usual. Typically, I pretend the "holiday" doesn't even exist, choosing, instead, to celebrate Singles' Awareness Day. In the past this has included treating myself to myriad personal treats to include, but not be limited to, a nice dinner out, some new threads, a red Kitchenaid mixer...whatever.
This year I actually have a--dare I say it--boyfriend. And an unrealistic fear of the holiday that is all hearts and arrows, candy and flowers. Why do I find it so difficult to say, "Hey, RCB, what are we going to do next Wednesday?" We talk about things much more important and intimate than that. So what's the deal?
More importantly, what if we do not talk about it? Do I buy secret gifts just in case he does (in case you're reading, the red Nano is screaming my name) and give them only if I get something? As one not versed in these romantic games and gestures, I am virtually clueless.
Why do I feel this pressure? Isn't it just another Wednesday in the neighborhood?
posted by Reluctant Dater @ Tuesday, February 06, 2007
5 Comments:
Definitely talk about it. Bring the subject up soon.
I guarantee that he has the exact same questions (and uncertainty) that you do...
1) maybe find a way to bring it up in a joking manner (to lighten the pressure on both of you). 2) i wouldn't buy too big of a secret gift, what if it doesn't match up to the value of his? you don't want to be ott. is there something smaller than an ipod that would still be meaningful?
3) you could always bring it up by offering to cook dinner that day for him, maybe it would lead to some satisfying dessert for you... not that he necessarily has to take you up on this, but at least that start to a conversation doesn't sound like you're expecting anything more than to spend time w/ him.
buddy, I AM THE ONE WHO WANTS THE NANO. and he KNOWS it. doubtful, doubtful, doubtful. however, we have been watching a lot of television together lately, and there have been many commercials regarding the horrible holiday...and we've both kind of joked about them (like guys ordering themed teddy bears for their gfs from the vermont teddy bear company). so, i'm wondering if i can use something like that as a segue...
How's this? If he doesn't ask you ahead of time, you make your own plans. Aren't you waiting around for him too much? Let him wonder why you're not asking him what's up. Set a deadline so you're not disappointed...remember you?
What exactly has changed if you still can't talk about the simple stuff?
How's this?
"RCB, this is what I expect next Wednesday. First, pick me up at 6pm looking dashing in your newly detailed car. Second, take me to a swanky four star restaurant downtown filled with beautiful people. Third, I would like a red ipod Nano for Valentine's Day along with a sweet, but not too sappy, hand-written love letter."
That's what us married people do and it works wonderfully.
Love you, RD!
Post a Comment
<< Home