i'm making spaghetti if you want to come eat
the romance in my life has reached spectacular proportions. if i continue to be wooed and courted so extravagantly i will probably perish from the joy of it.
what-ev.
this is how i was last asked out. i didn't go of course. because did i fail to mention...this was via text messaging.
TEXT MESSAGING. i must say i am NOT a fan. is it acceptable to others? i mean he falls about 4 years younger. he probably had a cell phone at 13...
but still one would think that asking a woman out for a 3rd date would at least rate a call. and the text quoted above in the title...puh-leese.
i would love to know others views on this text messaging dating thing. i'm not down with it. but should i be? should i lower standards a bit?
though i hardly think a phone call is too much to ask for...
posted by romance junkie @ Thursday, October 26, 2006
12 Comments:
if i ruled out text messaging / IM / email dating, then i probably wouldn't actually have gone on any dates at all. sadly it's probably come to a point where all this is supposed to be acceptable. i'm not particuarly a fan, but i'll deal. as long as we're still communicating... somehow...
I'm also not a fan of texting but I have to admit that it's become the preferred mode of communications lately. It's fine if it's to say "how are you" or "what time", but for true conversation...well, pick up the phone!
I've never asked someone on a date via text messaging, but I will often ask friends if they want to do something via text. There are two reasons for this:
1. I figure they are busy and this gives them time to respond at their liesure.
2. I may not actually want to talk to them...texting is sort of like timing a call when you know someone is not home, so you can just leave a message.
RJ - I promise when I ask you out, I will not text you, and it will not be for Spaghetti ;).
really jo? i'm only on a computer a limited amount of the day as i'm not working...though when i'm working i'm usually not on im etc.
i'm still a phone girl.
he's not a friend. or at least he talks like we aren't. my mom's first comment was "maybe he thinks you are just friends"
well i guess he learned his lesson. he's called since. i haven't' returned the call.
not sure that i will.
and allan thank you for that promise.
Texting is sooo passive agressive. I despise it when it comes to dating because it ups the assumption factor and makes everything non-committal.
Unless I'm running late and use a text to say I'll be there 10 mins late...I say pick up the phone already. Voice on voice action never hurt anyone.
Eh - I'm torn. I'm making spachetti want to come eat - that doesnt even sound like a date. If he had said, "you me, saturday, dinner at Butterfield 9" that i would view as a bit more offputting. Maybe he was trying to keep the tone casula and not make a big thing of it?
I wouldnt be TOO upset.
i'm not too upset. i was merely annoyed.
and i have no urge to call him.
i prolly will in a bit to play nice...now that i have my weekend completely booked.
oh a completely booked weekend is EXCELLENT. i hope it will leave you at least a few minutes for a phone date...with me, of course.
I think the message was much worse than the method.
Personally I have e-mail and text-messaged invitations for a date ... I don't think there is anything wrong with that. And (to my knowledge) I've never failed to get the date because of the use of e-mail/IM.
However, I would never write such a casual, brusque invitation. I would imagine that your reaction would have been a lot more favorable if he had written:
Romance Junkie,
I am making spaghetti tonight for dinner. However, I would enjoy the meal much more if you were here to share it with me. Would you be free to come over for dinner?
John
RJ, hope you have recovered from your swoon. I agree that texting is definitely the thing these days, and I use it myself fairly frequently for casual but not urgent conversation, but it seems like some guys get carried away with it and use it for all communication. I agree that either a less ambivalent text or a phone call conveying more interest than the lack of urgency text was warranted if he really wanted to spend the evening with you!
Please don't lower your standards. If you feel you deserve better then you do!
While I wouldn't fret over it, I must say that I HATE text messaging. It's fine for my friends checking in to see if I want to come meet them at the bar. It's also fine for booty calls, and it's spectacular for cutsie "thinking of you, sweet dreams" messages from an S.O (yes, I am a closet sap, forgive me). However, for setting up dates it's a bit lazy/"playing it cool."
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